How to choose your wedding entourage

Guest Post by Sophia Young

A wedding is a time where everyone gets together. Family, friends, even those you no longer talk to as much come to mind when guests are being thought of. And as a way to fill in the invites, some relationships are being rethought of. Among some of the most important people that need to be present in the wedding ceremony besides the bride and groom are of course their parents, especially for the bride so her father may walk her down the aisle and give her away, and of course the entourage. However, for a very special role, you indeed need to think of very special people to step into those shoes and that often is as hard as the whole wedding preparation itself. To ensure you have the right people by your side on your special day is crucial. Hence here is a guide that may help you with that decision.

Know who your true friends are

It is important to reevaluate your friendships with people during these times. Because often, there would be people you think care for you, but you won’t get to rely on. In turn, there are also people who would only be there for you for a show, during occasions such as weddings. Hence, it is important to gauge who really deserves the honor of being by your side during this momentous moment in your life.

Location wise

Will you be getting married in your old hometown? Or your beau’s hometown? Maybe, somewhere else like a beach or a garden? If so, it is important to gauge location-wise on who most likely could be there. Like someone who lives nearer or someone who can commit to going wherever the wedding is.

Who could most likely lend a helping hand the most

Weddings are so intricate to plan especially for the bride. And so, it is of utmost importance to consider who could most likely be there to ease all the pressure of the preparations. Like choosing the dress for your bridesmaids. This would entail needing someone who would most likely know all your other friends and family that would be part of the entourage.

Someone who is on good terms with most of the people you would invite

Yes, this may be the most important thing to consider yet. If you choose someone to be part of your entourage who had a bad relationship with your other friends, family, or guests, chances are, things might get more complicated and messier than they should be. So you might want to rethink including that mischievous friend of yours in the entourage because the spotlight might be taken away from you- and not in a good way.

Choose wisely

Choosing your entourage is as keen as choosing jewelry as gifts. It is most important to follow your gut feel and choose who fits the most. May it be the friend who has been with you the longest, or just the friend you’ve met not too long ago but who has had an impact on your life and relationship. At the end of the day, it is still your decision whether or not the be too picky if you’re that type of person, or if have someone you already have had in mind to be part of your entourage since you were a kid. It is your special day after all and maybe, the best thing still is to follow your gut.

Weddings are the times where you see the most love. And really, it is not even just between the newly married couple. You see the love the parents have for their children whom they now sent off to live a life with their betrothed. Sometimes, you even see the love of new family members to each other, the in-laws to the new member of their family. You see the love of friendship. Friends who even cry while giving the best man speech because he is seeing his best friend at his happiest moment for the first time and that is beautiful and tear-jerking.

Weddings are a time where people who might now even know each other come together to celebrate the love of two people they know. Oftentimes, people are even honored to just be invited to a wedding to see two lives come together as one. What more could be the honor of someone walking down the aisle as part of the entourage. It is like a friendship also being bonded stronger by marriage.

And no matter what your decision might be on who you want in your entourage, your true friends would be happy for you and understand and respect your decision. Because your wedding day is a day about you, not about them. A true friend will cheer you on whether they are part of your entourage or not.

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